Scholars have said ‘خير فيمن لا غيرة له لا’, ‘There is no good in a person who has no protective jealousy and honour’ [Kitab al Kaba’ir].
The Ghayrah of Allah
He ﷺ also said, ‘Allah has protective jealousy, and the protective jealousy of Allah is provoked when the believer does something that Allah has forbidden.’ [al Bukhari, Muslim]
أَخْبَرَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ عَلِيٍّ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ زُرَيْعٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عُمَرُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، عَنْ سَالِمِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " ثَلاَثَةٌ لاَ يَنْظُرُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ إِلَيْهِمْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ الْعَاقُّ لِوَالِدَيْهِ وَالْمَرْأَةُ الْمُتَرَجِّلَةُ وَالدَّيُّوثُ وَثَلاَثَةٌ لاَ يَدْخُلُونَ الْجَنَّةَ الْعَاقُّ لِوَالِدَيْهِ وَالْمُدْمِنُ عَلَى الْخَمْرِ وَالْمَنَّانُ بِمَا أَعْطَى " .
Dayyuth will not enter Paradise
The Mass Media Encourages the Dayyooth
People may think that the mass media shape the Muslim’s personality in an upright manner, but the reality is the opposite. It is in fact one of the greatest encouragers of the Dayyooth and a destroyer of protective jealousy. It broadcasts immoral pornographic scenes, obscene advertisements and lewd songs. It beautifies such dissolute men and women and presents them as examples. Women even chant their love of a specific actor or singer in front of their husbands, fathers and brothers, who have no reaction at all. In some media programs, a married woman or a girl may call to express her love and adoration of the actor, paying no attention to the reaction of her male relatives, perhaps, because she is certain they will not object📍 Social Media Encourages the Dayyooth – An Islamic Perspective
In today's digital age, social media has become one of the most powerful tools in destroying this vital trait. Below is an analysis of how social media is nurturing the rise of the dayyooth and weakening Islamic values tied to ghayrah.
🔥 1. Normalization of Public Display of Beauty (Tabarruj)
In Islam, a woman is commanded to cover her beauty (zinah) and avoid displaying herself to non-mahrams. Yet on platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat, it has become normal—even celebrated—for women to:
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Post beautified selfies or videos
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Dance or act provocatively
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Seek attention, likes, and validation from strangers
And many Muslim men, instead of advising with wisdom and firmness, either:
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Say nothing (fearing social backlash)
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Or even encourage this behavior
This absence of protective jealousy is exactly what defines a dayyooth.
📉 2. Destruction of Haya’ (Modesty)
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Every religion has a distinct characteristic, and the distinct characteristic of Islam is modesty (haya').”
(Sunan Ibn Majah, 4181)
Social media chips away at haya’, both for men and women. When modesty dies, ghayrah naturally weakens. If a Muslim man sees his sister, wife, or daughter engaging in immodest behavior online and feels nothing, that is a sign his heart is diseased.
🧠 3. Mockery of Ghayrah as "Insecurity"
Ghayrah is often labeled on social media as:
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Toxic masculinity
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Insecurity
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Control or "patriarchy"
This inversion of values shames Muslim men out of their Islamic responsibility to protect their families from indecency. Many fear being labeled controlling, so they become silent. Over time, this silence becomes complicity, and the ghayrah dies.
"Ghayrah is not weakness—it is from iman (faith). Its absence is a sign of the heart's corruption."
📵 4. Exposure to Fahisha (Indecency) & Desensitization
Social media promotes shamelessness (fahisha) globally. Muslims, men and women alike, are constantly exposed to zina, vulgarity, and hypersexualized content.
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Repeated exposure normalizes haram.
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Men lose sensitivity to what is shameful.
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Eventually, even within their own household, they fail to recognize immodesty or stop caring.
🧑🤝🧑 5. Public Interaction Between Genders
Many Muslims freely mix, comment, joke, and DM the opposite gender online—something that would never happen in a modest, real-life setting.
A man who:
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Allows his wife or daughter to interact with strangers online
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Knows she is posting pictures and videos for the public eye
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Yet remains silent or even supportive
... has become desensitized and is acting as a dayyooth.
❗ 6. Inverted Role Models and Influencers
Muslim women are increasingly following influencers who:
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Promote feminist or liberal ideologies
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Advocate for "freedom" from hijab, family structures, or Islamic modesty
Men who do not take the lead in educating, advising, and guiding their families away from these corrupt influences are failing in their Islamic duty as qawwamun (protectors and maintainers).
📿 7. Neglect of Male Leadership (Qiwamah)
“Men are the protectors and maintainers (qawwamun) of women…”
(Surah An-Nisa: 34)
Qiwamah requires men to protect the deen, dignity, and honor of the family. But social media:
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Undermines male authority
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Encourages a culture of “do not judge”
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Equates leadership with oppression
Men who internalize this thinking abdicate their Islamic role, becoming dayyooth by abandoning their protective responsibility.
🔒 8. Privacy Is No Longer Sacred
In Islam, privacy and guarding one's home and family are critical. But social media promotes the opposite:
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Broadcasting family life to strangers
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Posting intimate moments publicly
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Women seeking admiration from the masses, rather than contentment from Allah and their families
A dayyooth is not disturbed by this. He allows the sanctity of his household to be violated by a digital window that’s open 24/7.
📖 Final Thoughts: Return to Ghayrah Before It's Too Late
Ghayrah is not just cultural—it is spiritual armor. It protects families, preserves modesty, and upholds the honor of the ummah.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Do you feel ghayrah? Verily, I feel ghayrah more than you, and Allah has more ghayrah than me...”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 7416, Muslim 2761)
If Allah has ghayrah—and His Messenger ﷺ had ghayrah—then how can we be men and live without it?
📢 Action Steps for the Muslim Man:
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Actively protect your household from haram influences.
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Be gentle but firm in advising your wife, daughters, and sisters.
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Don't fear labels—fear Allah.
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Lead by example in modesty and digital discipline.
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Rebuild your ghayrah through du’a, Qur’an, and keeping good company.
