بِسۡمِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ
Boycotting in general is Impermissible in Islam; this is a general rule. There are certain exceptions.
‘It is not allowed for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three. They meet and so
this one turns away from that one, and that one from this. And the best of them is the one who
initiates giving the salutation to his brother.’
[49:10] The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islâmic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allâh that you may receive mercy.
[68:35] Shall We then treat the Muslims (believers of Islamic Monotheism, doers of righteous deeds) like the Mujrimûn (criminals, polytheists and disbelievers)?
[68:36] What is the matter with you? How judge you?
[68:37] Or have you a Book wherein you learn,
[68:38] That you shall therein have all that you choose?
[68:39] Or have you oaths from Us, reaching to the Day of Resurrection, that yours will be what you judge?
[68:40] Ask them, which of them will stand surety for that!
[95:8] Is not Allâh the Best of judges?
Do Not Boycott:
1.If it is not for the sake of ALLAH azwajal and for his Messenger (sallahu alaihi wasallam)2. If [the sunnah] is weak strong and [innovation] is strong
So if we open the door to boycotting, ostracizing and declaring people to be innovators–we will have to go and live in the mountains.
Rather it is obligatory on us today to, “Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best.” [Nahl 16:125]
3. If your leaving him will not benefit him, on the contrary, it will make him happy and will [just] leave him in his misguidance. Boycotting should be a cure for him and an
education.
"A man who had abandoned the prayer repented. He came to the mosque for the first time wanting to pray but found that it was closed, so he said, ‘You’re closed and [so] I have a day off [from praying]!"
4. If the person has repented and turned back to Allaah Azwajal.
Boycott:
If the persistent, disobedient Muslim sinner[faasiq], the criminal [faajir], continues upon his disobedience to his Lord, then the
boycotting and cutting off persists until he repents to Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic.
And if he turns back we turn back to him, and return to interacting/communicating
with him as our Lord, the Blessed and Most High, ordered us to. The length of time,
therefore, is in the hands of the one who is being boycotted. It is within his hands to
lengthen it and it is in his hands to shorten it.
In short :
1. To discipline him/her
2. To save ourselves getting influenced by their school of thought
Proof of Legislated Boycotting:
1. Ka’b ibn Maalik (RA) was boycotted because he didn't attend the battle of Tabuk (Quran)
[9:118] And (He did forgive also) the three who did not join (the Tabûk expedition and whose case was deferred by the Prophet for Allâh's Decision) till for them the earth, vast as it is, was straitened and their own selves were straitened to them, and they perceived that there is no fleeing from Allâh, and no refuge but with Him. Then, He forgave them (accepted their repentance), that they might beg for His Pardon (repent to Him). Verily, Allâh is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, the Most Merciful.
Also Sahih al-Bukhari 4418
2. Prophet (sallahu alaihi wasallam) boycotted his wives for a month:
The Prophet (ﷺ) had said, 'I will not enter upon them (my wives) for one month,' because of his anger towards them, when Allah had admonished him. So, when twenty nine days had passed, the Prophet (ﷺ) first entered upon `Aisha. `Aisha said to him, 'O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! You had sworn that you would not enter upon us for one month, but now only twenty-nine days have passed, for I have been counting them one by one.' The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'The (present) month is of twenty nine days.' Sahih al-Bukhari 5191
3. Narrated `Abdullah bin Maghaffal:that he saw a man throwing stones with two fingers (at something) and said to him, "Do not throw stones, for Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has forbidden throwing stones, or he used to dislike it." `Abdullah added: Throwing stones will neither hunt the game, nor kill (or hurt) an enemy, but it may break a tooth or gouge out an eye." Afterwards `Abdullah once again saw the man throwing stones. He said to him, "I tell you that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has forbidden or disliked the throwing the stones (in such a way), yet you are throwing stones! I shall not talk to you for such-and-such a period." Sahih al-Bukhari 5479But all the above boycotting is to DISCIPLINE. Not to cut off the relation.
"Many people try to solve the problem of heartbreak by hardening their hearts. But the hardened heart is the most distant from Allah. So by hardening the heart, you aren't protecting yourself. You're killing yourself. The heart that's alive is by definition entirely soft, fragile, and vulnerable. It is by definition breakable. That's why we are taught to surround it with layers upon layers of protection. Thikr (remembrance of God) works to protect the heart, while at the same time softening it. And the more we remember Him, the more protection we build for a softer and softer heart." - Yasmin Mogahed.
